Bore or Whore

This post was inspired by the most recent episode of TOWIE, where Ricky slated his (now ex) girlfriend's bedroom antics as "f*cking boring" (pardon his language). As both my and my friend's jaws dropped to the ground, it opened the dialogue on double standards, sex appeal and the plight of womanhood. 

Dress : ASOS | Heels (not pictured) : Steve Madden

I can't help but look back at some of my judgment in the past on promiscuous females, especially those in the media. These females have been publicly ostracised for their sexual indecency, and made to feel ashamed for openly expressing their sexuality. Again, I will reiterate, I do not condone such behaviour as in the same way men are expected to behave gentlemanly in public, so also should the lady-like standard be held up for females. I am not pitting a gender against the other, merely stating that I wouldn't respect a man who slushed his peen in my face, neither will I accept the same from THOTs. 

Me & Lolli at a wedding

Back to the matter...if these females are cast out for their overtly sexual demeanour, then why is it that same hand (that of a man) points to females again, branding them 'boring' in a negative manner? Men proclaim not to wife hoes because no one is down for the chore of turning a hoe into a housewife. Yet, they are equally unwilling to wife a bore who they'll have to train to turn tricks on the bedroom pole.

Ring & Tennis Bracelet : Swarovski

"A lady in the street but a freak in the sheets" (or its derivative) is probably the most overused rap lyric of all time, and perhaps they're on to something. But I can't help but feel hard done by, as a woman, to have to fit certain criteria for the public and later, in private. Men are just expected to be one thing; gentlemanly. That requires treating your woman as a queen, aspiring to better yourself and your family, etc etc. Yet a woman must fit far too many moulds as wife, mother, lover, to name a few. I blame the likes of Steve Harvey, who have moulded the task of being a woman in the 21st Century as a calculated equation of sussing out how to be "bawdy in thoughts, [yet] precise in words" John Wilmot. It's clear that a man can be himself and still bag a baby momma, a wife and whatever else...but women are conditioned to alter this and taper that, to be deemed appealing to the opposite sex. What's wrong with Jess choosing to remain demure in the bedroom? And the same applies for the alternative...just seems very hypocritical to me. 

Be you a bore or a whore? Be yourself, is all I implore. BLEURGH