The Positivity in Negativity

Having not yet caught up with the finale of Made In Chelsea, I apologise if these thoughts seem ill-founded to those who have. However, this is a general point of view that has been nagging at me to draft for a while. As women, the title 'bitch' is forever on our doorstep with every scowl, crawl up the career ladder, or latest fashionable purchase we make. We have to walk on eggshells and don caffeine-enhanced grins in order to be adored by our peers, or considered by our counterparts. Let me be the first (of many) to pronounce this all...BULL!

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Binky's situation in Made in Chelsea is not alien, as females would have become accustomed to those same inane mantras of "negativity" followed by extradition from friendship circles time and time again. I have preached the need to surround oneself with supportive people and positive energy on my blog in the past, and still stand by that. There is a difference between those who thrive on the downfall of others, and relish the opportunity to spread negativity, in contrast to others who are merely disseminating constructive criticism.

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I'm tired of women being sold the idea that being sugary sweet is the only optional characteristic we can embody in order to thrive in this world as a species. No! Being ruthless has its perks, as does being blunt. Positivity is necessary, but so is negativity, and it should be given equal weight in each person's development. In such a competitive climate, it is especially important now for women to have backbones tougher than their predecessors. The path to success is not paved with 'yes' stones, but littered with rejection, denial and harsh reality. Criticism builds character, and the sooner we stop selling the idea that women should sugar-coat the truth and stash bad news away from their fellow females, the better.

We are human; flawed and subjective at the worst of times. Its difficult to get an objective perspective when you're knee deep in a particular situation or have slaved away at a piece of work for months on end. But its vital that we see criticism (if constructive) as beneficial to our growth as it provides an alternative perspective; another giving valuable objective insight into our situation/task/whatever. Yes, the truth hurts, but at times what doesn't break us down can only stand to further strengthen us. And quite honestly, we can't live our lives in the right all the time...we are imperfect.

Onyxsta says...BLEURGH!! 

"Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things" WINSTON CHURCHILL