Cobalt Blue, Black & Gold

Apologies for this rather belated post but as my friend says, “sometimes life just gets in the way of sh*t” LOL. I have so much to say in so little time. But I really am struggling with time management these days. I can never seem to find enough hours in the day to do the things I love like bleurgh, post youtube videos or even watch my favourite shows. Seriously lagging behind on life…but on to the post! This post is dedicated to my three favourite colours. I have ENOUGH items in my wardrobe of these colours its ridique! I thought I'd break down why I like each and their symbolism in my life atm.

Blazer : ASOS | Tank top : H&M | Shorts : Primark

COBALT BLUE – This colour is bright, bold & daring! I have my new favourite ASOS blazer (pictured) in this colour, as well as a newly purchased (and discounted in the sale) pair of Primark peglegs and many many more…I just LOVE it! It represents my carefree character. I was recently thrown in the deep-end when I was made aware that my careless words had gravely affected a very close friend of mine. She was taken aback by a revelation I'd sprung on her on a night-out, causing me to question what MY flaws were. I asked two of the closest people in my life, and they stated much of the same; one of which was my carefree, blasé persona, which sometimes comes across as selfish, but to some may be admirable. I don’t take life too seriously and I LOVE having fun. Cobalt blue is a direct reflection of that as its 'in your face' in a very classy, regal way.

Lovely day out with my sister in Westfield, Stratford City, sipping on some Crispy Creme shakes, munching on some delicious doughnuts & licking on some delectable gellatos.

Turban : Scarf **gift from **Oh Bee from Dubai | Bag : Warehouse

Ray Ban Wayfarers : eBay | Necklace : Bershka (GranCanaria) 

Pumps : Ethel Austin (Wales)

BLACK – This represents my much darker side. I have a very sarcastic, British-black sense of humour. I crack crude, lewd jokes and I always take cussing matches too far. I am lethal with a swig of chemical (I LOVE the use of this Nigerian slang for alcohol) and a menace in a club. I am known to some BBM contacts as Lady Nocturnal as I hardly ever get to sleep until the early hours of the morning (in Uni, it was worse and I self-diagnosed myself as suffering from ‘Unisomnia’ LOL). I look the allure of black, a fail-safe colour that can mesh with just about everything in my wardrobe. Just like I have been known to some to get along with just about everyone (even though this was recently called to question when a friend apparently claimed I may have a conflicting personality…hmm).

**Soundtrack of the Minute - Doing It Wrong : Drake ft. Stevie Wonder (Take Care)**

GOLD – This is my most recent & welcomed trait. The glamourous and glitzy element to my personality. I've always been the pampered baby of the house, so I’ve always been smothered with love and attention in my household, but having struggled through adolescence and the trying pre-adult phase of my life through bullies and disappointments, I lost my spark. The loss of my confidence came with low self-esteem, disregard for personal style and the ever-evident need to be accepted. It wasn’t until recently that I found myself. I made a vow in January 2011 to hone in my talents and truly rediscover the extents of my mind (pushing myself from a 3^rd to graduating with a 2.1), hone in my spirit (I feel closer to God than ever with my daily devotionals and the relay of my personal testimonies to non-believers) and carve myself a covetable body (spent much of the earlier ½ of 2011 in the gym 3/4x a week), and I’m more than pleased to testify to 2011 being THE BEST YEAR OF MY LIFE!

Onyxsta says…BLEURGH!! Sparkle your way to the top, and spread love & light like the angel atop a Christmas tree. Xisses

Menswear Mondays: All Done Up

I drum on one too many times, about the appeal of a dapper don, a stylish stud, etc etc ...but dare I say there is an extreme that should remain untouched? While reading an amazing book (recommend it guys! If you follow me on Twitter - which is now open - you'd have heard me barking on about how multifarious it is) Mr Maybe by Jane Green, I stumbled upon a question thats probably plagued the minds of most women at least once in their lifetime. The protagonist was faced with the dilemma of choosing a wealthy man that adored her and was willing to bend over backwards to solely provide for her on the condition she become his [house/trophy] wife, over an unemployed writer on the dole whose sexual antennae was so in-tune with hers that she was willing to sacrifice so much of herself to be with him. Ok, maybe we all haven't been faced with such a dilemma *sniggers* but it seems there has been a time in every woman's life where she battles with her conscience at not allowing her head to simmer down, and her heart to fall head over heels in love with a guy that clearly adores her...?

 Shirt : Thrifted (Wales) | Cropped Chinos : ZARA 

Now, don't get me wrong. Its not like I'm lustfully driven by my carnal desires when deciding on which suitor (yes, I'm talking medieval to take it all back to basics) is most compatible, but there HAS to be some sort of chemistry, be it physical, sexual or emotional. 'Good guys never win'? Oh how guys LOVE to throw that line in a chic's face. But its not so much that good guys never win, as the lack of spark fails to be ignited by their dull, persistent plea for a chance, or their irritating pursuit of some of your time. The on-screen classic has to be Made In Chelsea's Spencer...just back off son, its embarassing. I know some of you are clutching your chests and bidding me to stop, arguing at just how adorable he is, but quite frankly, dude is a pest and needs to give it a rest.

 Watch : Guess | Rings (Left) : Dorothy Perkins | Ring (Right) : Matalan 

Dr's Bag : Thrifted (Sutton) | Studded Pumps : Urban Outfitters | Belt : Thrifted

The more Spencer pleads for a chance, or seizes an opportunity to convey his worth, or steals a moment to express his undying admiration for her, a tally bar on her perfect 10 checklist is knocked off. Some women are won over, eventually, by his charm, or succumb to basking in the limelight of his sweeping admiration...but most women consider this a turn-off. Having been at the receiving end of a Caggie-like scenario, I can knowledgeably conclude that his efforts will come to no end. And even if they do, its more a pity-party than anything else.

**Soundtrack of the Minute - Take A Shot : Drake (Take Care)**

I urge men not to think of the dating game as a bar of extremes. Its not so much, Good Vs Bad; in fact, its far safer to play your way some place in the middle. Straight-laced, pompous-faced, trudging along with a briefcase (ok, I got a tad carried away with the rhyming lol) will get you nowhere. Yes, women drum on about a dream man with drive, determination, ambition, etc...but leave your personality and charisma sitting on your commute-train and find yourself stranded at Singleville, bidding 'that girl' to PLEASE give you a chance cos you're a good guy.

Onyxsta says...BLEURGH!! All Done Up without the allure of charisma will only result in a blow at your ego & you in a strop. Xisses

Birthday Suit

I turned 22 this week, and as mentioned in the previous post, I was sort of dreading it. For my 20th, my flatmates threw me a surprise party which was pretty damn amazing & for my 21st, I spent the day in  Milan with my sister. So for my 22nd...I was adamant nothing should be done as its a dull-double, and not worth a celebration. But, upon weighing up the blessings that'd been bestowed on me in the most fabulous year of my life, I felt ungrateful for thinking it unworthy of anything.

 Dress : Allders | Belt : New Look | Brogues : New Look

I started work this week, which will explain why BLEURGH posts have been few & far between but I'm working on a routine that should ensure regular posting, promise. Anyway, I digress...work....so I now work in a Law Firm in the city and this was my first week, so I was in an office on my birthday. Having worked in an office environment all summer in Wales, I had become accustomed to the traditions of the workplace & recognised that grand gestures are widely appreciated by co-workers. I brought in sweets and sent out the cheesiest email to everyone on my floor in the office, tagging myself as "the new girl" LOL. I know...CRINGE! But it seemed to work, and by lunchtime, I was indulging in a fatty lunch, some chocolate cake & my boss treated us to some delicious gourmet baklava.

 DKNY Bag : **19th Birthday gift (**8Ballers) | Rings : BHS & Dorothy Perkins

After work, everyone was expecting me to go out on a total bender...but my evening was a complete contrast. I was bombarded with love from all realms of cyberspace from Twitter to Facebook, not sparing technological public displays of affection like changing BBM display pictures or status updates including well wishes. After basking in a full day of love from all angles, I felt it only right to give back, so I volunteered my evening in my a homeless shelter my mother started in my community. I'd spent all my other birthdays fully in the spotlight, so this one was so surreal. It was heart-breaking hearing tales from those that had loved and lost, or had worked so hard, only to stand helpless as the ground they stood on was swept from beneath their feet. How then can I complain that my double-digit birthday was not worth a mention when I had so much to be thankful and grateful for?

**Soundtrack of the Minute - Make Me Proud : Drake ft. Nicki Minaj**

Some may view my day with a screwed up nose and wonder why I Mother Theresa'd out my time instead of going out (which I eventually did over the weekend, but more on that later...) but I saw this day as sacrificial. I was overwhelmed by the love I received that to gift an ounce of it away would still have left me with more than I enough.

Onyxsta says....BLEURGH!! As I mark my 22nd year, I mark the growth of solo BLEURGH into its 2nd year. Xisses

22nd Birthday Wishlist

Hi guys, I'm gonna be bidding adieu to the best year of my life on Wednesday and for a long while, I was in mourning and didn't wanna celebrate the coming of another year in my life cos I loved my 21st year SO much! The best things happened to me this year, I graduated, found probably the best friends in my life and had the SICKEST last year of Uni EVER! Also landed placements, travelled abroad (twice) for the first time alone without my parents....and much more. So as I prepare for the next great year of my life, here's the things I've been lusting after and would love as presents to bring in another year.... :)

1. ALDO x Julian Louie Sobelslava wedges! I've been wanting this for a while now and when I set my eyes on them in store, it was utter lust at first sight. It was destined to be in my closet.
2. I am LOVING velvet slipper loafers right about now. Especially the ones with a gold emblem printed on the face. It would be lovely to get the personalised ones with my initials....hey! A lady can dream can't she?
3. Barbour Strattford quilted jacket in navy blue. I love that its lady-like, form-fitting one as I think they're just GORGEOUS! With the corduroy detailing as well, absolutely lush.
4. ZARA plaited shopper bag in black. This baby sold out like a high-class whore last season and I was uber-thrilled when it came back in select stores this season. I have a replica link that I'm willing to rape if I don't get this for my birthday, but it'd be lovely to bag the original.
5. Amelia - Kurt Geiger/ Carvela are the safest bets for suede, black platform heels. as are Office cos of my feet sizing (Size 5 btw).
6. Suede, black wedges. This has been on my shopping list for centuries now, and I'm glad to shift the responsibility of this purchase on to a loving friend or family. There are inexpensive pairs in stores like New Look, but its also running rampant in Office.
7. An iPad 2. What? Dream Big people!
8. Marc Jacobs Black & Gold watch. Two of my favourite colours beautifully united in a beaut of a watch. Been lusting after this watch since I spotted it in store and its been in my dreams since. Make my dreams come true, my lovelies!
9. Alexander Wang Rocco Bag. Blame **Toy for having an uber-long convo with the sales lady in Selfridges and allowing me to fully indulge in a love affair with this bag. The supple leather, the gold studding, the distressed look....it was a match-made in heaven! I've seen replicas but they don't compare to the OG!
10. Michael Kors rose gold watch. Yes! That is all!
11. Jeffrey Campbell Lita's in the original black. On every blogger's 'Must Have Lust List', and I'm no exception.

Onyxsta says...BLEURGH!! Cheers to the 22nd year, here's another great year I shall live to share. Xisses